HOW TO DEAL WITH Toxic Relatives this Christmas

Toxic relatives – Relatives that affect your emotional and mental well-being, i.e. gas lighting, verbal abuse, etc. Emotionally Draining – people/ circumstances that drain your energy and damage your mental health. Gas lighting – blatant lies intended to distort your reality and make you susceptible to their control. Often times the Holiday Season is stressful and can be uncomfortable for young adults to process. I’m not talking about the annoying household chores, or helicopter parents. Relatives, friends and family, biological or otherwise, who lie to your face or make comments that affect your self-esteem; those with draining characteristics. Some people dress up for holiday family meals, but if you’re a college student like me, you may not have the funds to compete with the Uncle Gucci and Auntie Chanel. Don’t allow bullying from family members, or anyone else! Or maybe, the freshman fifteen carried into fifty and fatphobic relatives enjoy making you feel uncomfortable with their stares and comments. ‘Friends of the family’ give you a few extra sidelong glances; or a lingering hug- all of these things may contribute to your mental health. If you’re made to feel uncomfortable, please, expose the situation and then leave. When confronting your toxic relatives…after you have attempted to explain your boundaries and what makes you uncomfortable, you may be met with criticism, or more derogatory comments about you. Often times, it’s better to protect your energy, and mental health by way of distance. If there is no change in behavior it is not worth your energy. Tips to Avoid Toxic Relatives Find less toxic relatives to lodge with, or pay in advance for an AIRBNB or hotel. Feel no shame in avoiding physical and verbal communication with toxic relatives. I speak to everyone at once, “HEY everyone Merry Christmas,” then hug my…

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Cheap & Easy | Southern Homemade Banana Pudding

via GIPHY I found a wonderful recipe that’s similar to mine on YouTube, I love the simplicity of it….but mine is with a twist… This recipe serves 6-8 full portions in a medium sized, or at least 2 quart clear pyrex dish. One (or two depends on container) box of regular sized Vanilla Wafers 4 Egg YOLKS (How to separate the egg below) 2 Cups of milk (whole or 2%) 1 Cup of sugar 2 tablespoons of self-rising flour 1 teaspoon of vanilla extract (Hold until off heat) • Gently cup the cracked egg between your fingers. The egg whites should slide between your fingers and into a bowl. When only the yolk remains put it into the sauce pan, repeat 4 times. • In a medium sauce pan add the egg YOLKS, milk, sugar, and flour on medium- high heat. • Stir constantly, and cook on medium to high heat. I usually cook on 6, or 7. • I know its beginning to thicken when it resembles a thin pudding, or coats a wooden spoon. • Once it begins to bubble, continue cooking for two minutes before you remove from heat. • Stir constantly so it doesn’t scorch!! • Remove from heat, allow to chill for 5 minutes. • After the 5 mins are up, the mixture may still be hot; that’s ok, add the vanilla extract. • Sure, go ahead and layer it up!! Some choose to layer it or gently fold the chilled pudding into the whipped cream. • I do cookies, pudding, whipped cream, repeat. • My Twist: BYOB! Add a shot of banana liqueur to flavor OR cut fresh bananas with each plate…. that’s right the bananas are on the side. • I allow it to chill in the refrigerator for at least 45 minutes…

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Healthy Body Goals |Southern Fitt Giveaway| College Edition

via GIPHY No Freshman Fifteen We’ve all heard about it, gaining weight in college may come from frequent unhealthy food choices, or unbalanced portions of one too many buffets… It’s ok, in this post we’re going to discus How to Incorporate Fitness into Your Everyday Life Balanced food portions Eating healthy for $20 a week Real Body Goals Apps that Help -FREE Giveaway at the End I polled a small group asking several survey questions about general health, fitness, and how it impacts them. The answers I received are in this post; they were honest, and heartfelt – thank you. Why Your Health Should Be Important Now I used to think my middle school bff was crazy! She was maybe 120, and 5’2; she loved the gym. I appreciated her coordinated workout gear and wondered how she managed to keep her hair so neat after the gym. The gym isn’t for everyone, and neither are diets. It’s wise to be healthy now, and incorporate healthy decisions into one’s lifestyle early. The habits we develop in college are sometimes difficult to break. To cope with stress, and frustration, or even for plain fun- getting in motion and feeling confident in one’s self, feels great. “We all need good nutrition in our bodies. Physical activity and healthy diets will help you maintain a healthy weight, reduce chronic diseases such as cancer or heart disease, and just promote your overall health and reduce the risk of obesity.” MSU -Maliyah Uta Chapman says “Maintaining a healthy lifestyle is important because it reduces the risk of early onsets of chronic diseases; such as diabetes and hypertension. In addition to increasing your livelihood, living a healthy lifestyle is important for self-esteem and self-image. Developing healthy habits will boost your confidence and energy to conquer day to…

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Body & All | My College Beauty Regime

My Summertime College Beauty Regime I love makeup. But during summer I usually rock a light, natural beat to avoid melting my face off. Yes MUAS I am aware of baking, and setting sprays, etc- I don’t intend to make it that far at these temperatures. However, my face is dry around my eyebrows and nose; it rarely gets oily and acne is a lone ranger. BUT, stress does me no justice. To hydrate my face I don’t use any fancy cleansers. Instead, I add a small pin prick of coconut oil to my eyebrows and nose to combat any flakiness. Stress Brings My Acne Out On my cheek, and occasionally my chin has a large acne bump. I’ll be honest, I pop MY pimples but only when they come to a head. First I’ll apply toothpaste and let it rise. Next with clean fingers, and coconut oil having already softened the area, I apply gentle pressure. If I feel it giving, I continue, if not I leave it alone! To help fight discoloration around heavily shaved areas like armpits, apply coconut oil to help lighten and maintain soft skin in those areas. Clear and healthy skin is important to so many people. I use Neutrogena astringent to help rid my face of excess oil. Deep Clean Showering Exfoliating your face, and body leaves you with a great canvas for moisturizing. Proper exfoliation also helps to reduce ingrown hairs when shaving. I use coconut oil in my hair and my skin care regimen. Juergens, Saint Ives, Pure coconut oil are my favorite lotions; Bath and Body Works brands too! The white bar, Dove sensitive skin soap is gynecologist approved, and my personal favorite. Degree is another favorite brand of mine, but I use coconut oil as a base for my deodorant.…

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The Dream Girl Brunch | Review

Imagine walking into a chic bubble bath, warm, and soothing, complete with mimosas and delicate pink velvet waffles. No seriously, it was a dream… The Dream Girl Brunch served to provide answers to an open floor of aspiring business owners, entrepreneurs, and every lady boss in between. Additionally, there were specific opportunities to network and meet other professionals and make business connections. There is a profound sense of fulfillment one receives after attending an event full of intelligent, humble, successful, black women entrepreneurs. Dreamgirl Panelists Stormi Beasley, also known as Stormi Steele, is well known on instagram as @canvasgirlbeauty. Steele intentionally invited speakers with backgrounds similar to herself, and she did her homework well. Black owned: venues, party planners, hosts, panelists, entrepreneurs, bartenders, photographers, entertainment, and vendors. Follow her IG below to see who helped create this masterpiece! Everyone who catered or serviced the event, contributed to the attendee’s sense of empowerment and were also black, educated, and exhibited warm energy. Founder of Canvas Beauty and The Dreamgirl Brunch Stormi Steele Host Inez Doe Owner of UFancii Krystte Nicole Johnson Owner of Her Secret Garden Loreal Jones Owner of The Beauty Life Brand Amber Jones Owner of Life Key Financial Group Sisterhood Was Created and Encouraged The event was void of jealous or envious vibes, as both the attendees and panelists conversed and interacted with everyone as if they knew them already. I came alone, but I never felt lonely. Several women volunteered conversation, and their superb selfie abilities. Compliments flowed as sweet and free as my fruit filled raspberry mimosa. No smile seemed stiff, or laughter forced. I even made a networking friend, Mimi; who decided to sponsor our giveaway. Her compliment to me, “I read vibes, and your energy told me all I needed to know; we’ll keep…

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How I Moved Out | (College) Apartment Edition

Are you apartment hunting because you’re “too old” to live with your parents? Sick of living on campus? Moving to a new state? We’re going to discuss 2 key elements of financial indepence | Credit & a solid Money Plan. Ensure you have great credit to reduce the likelihood of deposits on utilities, apartments, cable & phone bills, or car note… all of which applies to me because I followed 3 simple rules. Understanding your lease terms Taking pictures of the property before and after I was NOT WISE in that I used grant money to move-in and almost couldn’t pay it back in time to enroll for class. However, lesson bought and crisis averted. So, while my credit score was 781 (now 750) all those hard inquiries and a new credit card later, I’m now a proud apartment owner for the second time. If you don’t know how to build your credit score, read here. College Roommates Currently I live with youtuber and influencer #crownnation Royalty is like my brother; and we have an awesome time laughing and cooking all day. Our house is filled with laughter and singing. We also split the cost of bills down the middle and agree to keep our thermostat blowing snowballs, no matter the season. Looking for roommates? Start with sites like this one. My Tips to Moving Out Your Parent’s House Be 21 Years Old! Have an excellent credit history 700+ Save 1200+ for moving out and then six months worth of expenses for an Emergency Fund Pack a bag of essentials for the first 3 nights (You don’t want to realize all the basics of a good bubble bath are still packed up) electronics to A hot and ready to eat meal – College students should apply for SNAP (EBT) if…

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7 Ways to Save Money on Spring Break

via GIPHY Income taxes just hit, your extra 1,000 AOTC Tax Credit should have helped you along. You deserve to treat yourself. Travel, and pamper yourself with gifts–let’s not get crazy. So with that in mind, know your budget Travel Hacks | College Edition We’re going to get personal because I’m telling you my secrets, to help you no matter where you’re at. How to Get ‘Cross-Faded’ Safely Cutting Travel Costs: airfare, hotel, transportation, a lot more. Discounts on Miscellaneous Fees Sightseeing Hacks & Discounts Bests Apps for Traveling My Best Top Secret Travel Hacks My Budgets in NOLA & NYC Room and Board Cut costs with apps that offer cheaper transportation and hotel options like: Airbnb, Hopper, Student Universe, City Pass + a lot more. Use a booking site to make your search easier BUT DON’T book online. If you want a hotel, use any travel website to get their phone number. Call the old fashion way to avoid giving extra money to any middle man. (My favorite travel site is because their UI is simple) When you call, confirm: parking fees, distance from airport, distance downtown, major attractions etc. This can help you ascertain costs of uber, subway, and the like. Choose Airbnb for Spring Break Airbnb offers hotels, private room options in shared spaces. I don’t recommend this for lone travelers but it definitely does reduce costs. It also can filter private homes according to your specifications. I promise you can find the space you need for MUCH CHEAPER or even better value than the average hotel. Airbnb offers Super hosts who offer quality, 4-5 Star treatment as verified by other Airbnb users. I like this option most of all. They usually offer personal amenities or snacks for their guests. I live for considerate personal touches…

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Cute Valentine’s Day Ideas in College

Valentine’s Day Sex in College can be depressing, but that’s because you didn’t read this post on: Self love, Oral Sex Tips & Advice, Bareskin vs Pleasure Trojans, How to Heat Up Your Relationship + a whole lot more…

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6 Things to Do With A Syllabus

Believe me I know the first day of class is boring. The lecture is nothing but class expectations and rules and regulations… You won’t remember all the ins and outs of class, so turn instead to your syllabus. Though you may think your syllabus is not important, it’s the backbone of your semester. Make the Wise Choice | keep reading because we’re going to talk about 6 Things to Do with it.. Want to know what to do the night before classes, read here. affiliate links may be present, but at no additional cost to you. 1) Read for Important Info Remember parents saying, reading is fundamental, its true. Underline Contact Info & Office Hours of Professors– Write your professor’s email in your planner notes for easy access. Allotted absences– For each professor it varies how many classes you may miss before it lowers your grade. Highlight Essays, Quizzes, Tests, , Holidays, & Exams Match Dates of aforementioned with corresponding dates in an academic planner (August – June) 2) Check Required Textbooks & Reading Materials For each textbook write or copy and paste: ISBN Numbers Author Specified Editions Other Required Course/Access Codes WAIT to buy books and read why here. Word to the Wise: To Save money I recommend Chegg. Double check prices at Amazon too. If you want more options I made a post for you, that you can read here. 3) Color Code Your Classes Seeing color and organization just makes it more fun and functional. Adulting can be fun. Use a different colored pen to write your classes in your planner. Eventually this will help you decide which classes to dedicate the most time to…divided by due date. I also use a different color-coding system when highlighting: notes, keywords and phrases, and important dates. My tips on how…

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Twas the Night Before College

what to do the night before college classes start

We discuss textbook discounts, what to pack in your dorm and your backpack. Good study habits, the best class schedule and more…

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College Advice 101: How to Get Your First Car in 12 Steps

10 Cut & Dry Steps to Buying Your First Car the Smart Way.

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5 Ways to Party Safely: College Party Edition

-Tips on how to get Cross Faded ‘Safely’
-5 Ways to Party Safely in College
-How to tell if someone has alcohol poisoning or has OD

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20 Cheap Stocking Stuffers for College Students

Cheap and Popular Stocking Stuffers for College Kids

20 Cheap but AWESOME Stocking Stuffers for College Kids this Christmas
Including my Top 5 Recommendations…

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50 Popular Holiday Gifts for College Students

50 Popular Christmas Gifts for College Students
Below are 25 Different 5 Gift Ideas for College Girls and Guys

My Top 10 Favorite Picks are included too Make the Wise Choice and Keep Reading

Parents sometimes need help in the right direction and sometimes so do we. Hell I looked up lists like this to help me better decorate or enjoy college.

Buying for Him or Her 
If you’re a guy trying to buy for a woman, think of

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Cheap, Quick & Easy Meals for College Students- Walking Tacos

Sub for flank steak to make it better. This was the best way to use the Fritos no body seemed to want, and get my daily taco fix satisfied too.

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Savage D. BLACK College Blogger is Headed to Youtube

Black College Vloggers are not in high demand so here’s my view of the world in Savage D TV. When we get together get ready for the shade of your life!!!!

Look forward to:
Blunt Talk
Roll Call
Story Time
How to Videos
RoyalTEA with Savage D
Chef BoyRD
XYZ Reactions and so much more…

See you in a few days Go ahead and subscribe 😉

Watch my trailer for a chance to win Savage D TV

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Thanksgiving Peach Cobbler “Dump Cake”: College Edition

See how my first ever Beurre Noisette Apple Crown Peach Cobbler went.. College Edition means it’s frugal approved and feeds at least two 😉

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Money Wise: How to Make a Side Hustle Work for You in College

How Grocery Shopping Led one College Student to a Major Side Hustle

More often than not if you’re in college, you or someone you know has a job. If you’ve never had one, college is the time to get one. Word to the Wise: Having a job in college teaches you an important skill like time management. Use your paycheck to save a few dollars, and learn to budget money. Me and My Three Jobs My sophomore year I decided to have three jobs, while taking 15 credit hours. I planned my days and budget out according to what needed to happen when. Best tips for managing that here. I worked as a secretary in the English department, and personal chef during the week; on weekends I worked as a server. I loved that my day job allowed me to do basic tasks and complete my homework while I was at work. Working in a university is the best main job to have as their schedule WILL align with academic calender, and usually most employers try to accommodate your schedules for school. But what about a Side Hustle? Everyone seems to have one these days, it’s important to have extra money coming in. Realistic Side Hustles for College Students: Tutor Paper Editor (Not Ghostwriter) Hair stylist Makeover artist ‘Chef’ Work in Your Department Server/ Barista Fast Food Retail I decided to kill two birds with one stone. Story Time My roommate Tiara and I have the best relationship. We both went out of our way to make our college apartment feel like a home: including drapes, a lamp, a cake plate, and a spice rack. Cozy right. We are both the mothering type, so it was nothing for us both to cook breakfast, dinner, and dessert all at once. Despite our differing schedules we liked to sit and eat dinner together every…

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Money Wise: The Right Way to Budget in College

How My Tips Helped me Save Enough Money to Travel and Go to School and Why I recommend a Zero Based Cash Budget in college.

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How to Study for Exams in College

Before college I never used to study. I would barely pay attention in class and master the material. Walk in, A+ on any test, and it was no problem. Freshman year of college I kept the same attitude from High-school. Big mistake. I drowned in my tears and a sea of F’s until I taught myself how to study in college. Key Concepts to Keep In Mind Cramming is not gonna cut it. Go to class. Plain and simple Write your notes by hand to remember them better Underline things said twice in the lecture Highlight vocabulary words you recognize and those you don’t Rewrite the concept again, and try to explain it to someone else College will require that you study. Even material you think may be easy, just dedicate less time to studying it than the others. But still study it. Please don’t think you’ll remember when the test comes because you won’t Before Midterms Find a Great Spot to Study I loved finding empty lecture rooms, to study in. Libraries can become noisy so find a spot on a higher floor. It won’t kill you to put your phone on DND. I bet you post everything else. Post to your social media that you’re studying until further notice. Word to the Wise: Study your hardest subject 1st. Study each subject for an hour. Break the hour into 25 min. intervals, with 5 minute breaks. Avoid burnout. The best way is to plan your day, and keep school time for school, and home for YOU. In Class Sit close enough to the front to force yourself to be noticable if absent, or asleep Write down notes: names, dates, concepts, and important vocab Underline foreign information and research for later Create a Study Group or Join One Yall, like…

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Credit 101: UPDATE How I Grew My Credit Score to 777

I’m assuming you think its gonna take years and years and that you have to have a lot of money to get a high credit score. Fact of the matter is you can have $3.21 cents to your name and your credit score be 850 Or if you want a car soon I kept all of these practices in mind and it worked when I applied for a 14,000 used car with a cosigner, my personal score then was about 716. A monthly note for $265, down payment $0.00. I’m Going to Teach you How I Built My Credit Score to 777 Quickly Read this post or listen on the podcast What did I do? I made purchases and paid them off in full, and on time. Literally, I would deposit what I just spent, wait for the total to post to Discover, PAY IT OFF IN FULL, Repeat. Word to the Wise: Read all fine print: if words like APR & Interest rate are unfamiliar I explained those terms in this post. How I Beat The System Elsewhere, I detail that there are other ways to build credit with retail cards, by making small purchases, and paying that off on time. For example, you’re building credit if your name is on a current: car note, phone bill, monthly rotating bill(s)/subscriptions like Netflix and Hulu etc… Even gas credit cards can boost your score in about 3 months. Following my rules below will help guide you, but your results depend on you. via GIPHY Only charge what you already have in cash. Credit card companies, and loan offices make money from your debt. PAID IN FULL needs to become more than just a movie. Let it be the motto. Aim for cards with no annual fees. No, or low APR between…

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